''Fake it until you make it''
No one can ever take your place, there are going to be people that are prettier than you and smarter than you. There are going to be people who have more money than you, but they are not you!
I am here to help you girls and guys gain confidence because I know first-hand that being confident and loving yourself in the society that we live in today is probably one of the hardest things in the world, especially being a woman in this society. You just have so many unrealistic expectations of yourself. So many people that are being idolised nowadays have a lot of plastic surgery and I'm not hating on that. I'm all for that. I'm not hating on plastic surgery, I think that people should do whatever makes them happy. I'm saying not every girl especially teenagers have access to these things. Sometimes just seeing these idols plastered all over you Instagram feed can really put you down, and make you feel like you're useless.
Just because you view the beauty of someone else, doesn't mean there isn't an absence of beauty in yourself. Putting yourself down to praise someone else is not a compliment to anyone. Confidence is like a muscle you must exercise it every single day to make it stronger. Unfortunately, confidence isn't something you're going to gain overnight. It takes time to build the confidence it's taken me years to do so and I still have those days where I feel insecure about myself, but everybody does. Even the Kardashians and the Jenner’s have those days, everybody has insecurities. You need to remember that your idols on Instagram or twitter they still have their days, still have insecurities and they still sometimes feel not on fleek. That is one thing with confidence ''you must fake it until you make it''. Until you feel that confidence in yourself you must fake that you are confident. If you constantly thinking negatively about yourself, you are setting yourself up to fail. It's the law of attraction if you want positive outcomes you've got to think positive thoughts, positive vibes and positive energy. How do you expect others to think highly of you if you're negative about yourself and constantly putting yourself down?
Cocky and confidence are two different things there is a fine line drawn between them. Confidence ''I love myself'', Cockiness ''I'm beautiful but she's ugly''. That's the difference between confidence and cockiness, so don't let someone tell you that your cocky because you love yourself. You don't need that negativity or those people in your life. Those people are probably just jealous because they don't have that self-love or self-confidence that you have. Don't be afraid to be selfish or scared to put yourself first because at the end of the day you are number one. If someone tries to tell you that you're selfish just for putting yourself first and your needs and feelings first again you don't need that negativity. You are your main priority just remember that.
You've got to speak up and speak your mind you can't expect people to just know what's going on in your head. You've got to voice your opinion, you've got to voice what you want. In my opinion to truly be a confident person is to own what you do. My biggest pet peeve is when people say ''I can't pull that off'' you will never hear that sentence come out of my mouth. It truly bothers me to hears others say that, what do you mean you can't pull something off? Clothes, for example, the clothes don't wear you, you wear the clothes and you can rock whatever the hell you want! You could wear a bin bag and if you feel confident and good, who cares what anyone else thinks! It only matters how you feel about yourself.